I recently had an email
discussion with my brother Keith and his wife Carole regarding writing. I mentioned to them that writing A Rose for Sergei and even writing a
blog were definitely out of my comfort zone, but I would continue to write
anyway. I felt I needed to write about
Sergei Kourdakov before it was too late.
In reality I meant before I was too old.
I commented that the reason I wanted to write about Sergei is because I
know I would have regretted not
writing about him . . . and one should have no regrets in life.
Regrets can be categorized in
different ways. One is the type of regret
where you don’t have any choice in the results.
Another type of regret is where you do have a choice but you fail to
follow through, and decide to do nothing.
That is the type of regret I was referring to. The one where you say years later, “I should
have done this,” or “I wish I had said that.”
Carole* blogs about life
experiences and her response from the discussion was poignant, “I truly
understand your comment about working outside your comfort zone and at the same
time knowing that this is what you are supposed to do. I can't say that I have ‘no regrets’ in life.
But all the choices that I made have brought me to this point, and it's
a very good place.”
That response made me think
long and hard. Yes, I will say that I
also have regrets. Those regrets do
shape our lives and we learn from them, hopefully for the better.
My wish for my blog readers is
this: If you know you have any regret
that you can change, because you have a choice, then change it now. I wouldn’t recommend writing a book for
everyone because I am finding it takes a tremendous amount of time and
energy. Maybe all you need to do is make
a simple phone call or email someone so years later you won’t have to say, “I
wish I had done . . . .” Whatever it is,
make that choice and make it happen.
Sometimes you get a second
chance.
*Read Carole’s blog and watch
for her forthcoming book:
http://caroleduff.wordpress.com/about/
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